A boy embarking on his teenage years with few anchors in a chaotic world has a place he may call his own, with people there who know him and will welcome him always.
This is a goal of mine for my kid. Having an anchor -- especially with some distance from you parents -- can help immensely.
I fully approve of your goal, but don't push too hard on it. I was a rather pigheaded kid, and would always push back against my parent's efforts to be more gregarious. (Because of this, I grew up very aloof and am now regretting it in middle age.)
This is a goal of mine for my kid. Having an anchor -- especially with some distance from you parents -- can help immensely.